8 Bookish romances I actually support–so much arguing

I spend a fair bit of time bashing romances in books. I roll my eyes at teen romantic drama and rage against so called “romantic” relationships that are SO UNHEALTHY HOW DOES NO ONE ELSE SEEM TO NOTICE.

Despite all this, I’m not against all bookish romance. Yes, I’m picky. Yes, I generally tend to prefer books that focus on platonic relationships. But when I find a romance I truly enjoy, I…truly enjoy it. (Wow, I thought I had somewhere to go with that sentence and I really didn’t.)

So, while I considered writing a post ranting about all the romances I hate, I’ve decided to show you all that I’m not just a cranky love-hating goblin who burns down flower shops and pops heart-shaped balloons on Valentine’s Day.

I’m limiting myself to people in books (otherwise you can be sure I would be screaming about Newt+Tina and Donny+Julia in a moment here) who fall in love in the course of the story (so no people who are already married at the beginning of the story *cough cough SIG AND IZUMI CURTIS cough*).

Without further ado, here are 8 Bookish Romances I Actually Support (in no particular order):

1. Howl and Sophie from Howl’s Moving Castle

As a ridiculously vain, remarkably over-dramatic wizard, Howl needs someone like Sophie who will take absolutely none of his nonsense. I love them both dearly. Their relationship is endlessly entertaining–full of banter, green slime, Sophie embracing her role as a grumpy old lady, Howl lapsing into dramatic despair, etc.–but also manages to be quite sweet.

Howl’s voice was presently heard shouting weakly, “Help me, someone! I’m dying from neglect up here!”

Sophie snorted.

Oh, and we can’t forget about the scene where Sophie pretends to be Howl’s mother. How often do you see that in a romantic relationship?

2. Kit and Dewey from A Series of Unfortunate Events

This is kind of an odd one to include since we never see them interact in the book (and by the time we meet them they’re already a couple, so I guess I’m breaking my rule, but shhhhhhh). And Dewey is in, like….two chapters?? But I love that chapter SO MUCH. And Kit is the greatest.

These two.


He opened his mouth, and reached one hand out of the water, pointing past the Baudelaires toward the dark, dark sky as he struggled to utter the word he most wanted to say. “Kit,” he whispered finally.

3. Ed and Winry from Fullmetal Alchemist

Ok, but the number of times Ed is a squiggly bloody blob on the floor after Winry hits him with a wrench though.

I love that they’ve been close friends ever since they were little. I love all the arguments they have, all the times Winry tells him he’s short because he doesn’t drink milk, all the times Ed’s like “I’m so pathetic, I made her cry again”, all the times they worry about each other…basically I just love them all the time.


Al: (as they’re walking away) “How cute! That was so sweet, Big Bro!!”

Ed: “Shut up, Stupid!!”

4. Maddie and Jamie from Code Name Verity

It has been AGES since I read this book, so I don’t remember everything. I do remember quite clearly that I adore both Maddie and Jamie. And I adore them as a couple.

Oh! And I remember “Ma–MA CHERIE!”

And Jamie saying, “Shut your mucky gob, man” when that one guy is being a jerk to Maddie.

He just put his hand through the bulkhead, exactly as she’d done, and squeezed my shoulder. He has very strong fingers. And he kept his hand there the whole way home, even when he was reading the map and giving me headings.
So I am not flying alone now after all.

5. Barbara and Peaceable from The Sherwood Ring

What can I say about these two? Peaceable is so clever and confident and all-around entertaining to read about. And then there’s Barbara who refuses to give him the satisfaction of seeing her panic and outwits him (but also does her share of freaking out, because realizing you’re in love with someone has that effect–especially when that someone starts taking stupid risks to come see you).

“When the war’s over, dearest?”

“When the war’s over, dearest,” she promised gravely.

And the proposal scene. Gotta love a good proposal with someone falling flat on their face.

6. Mustang and Hawkeye from Fullmetal Alchemist

(Yes, another Fullmetal Alchemist one. I’m not definitely not obsessed, but I just finished the books and I’m currently watching Brotherhood with my sister and I have feelings.)

…Why do I love them so much?

Hawkeye is so fiercely supportive of Mustang and what he’s trying to accomplish, and he trusts her and relies on her so much. They get so mad at each other when the other person does something that puts themselves in danger.

“I won’t die… I’ve been given orders…not to die.”


7. Kate and Christopher from The Perilous Gard

The amount of banter and insults here. Truly excellent.

Basically Christopher blames himself for things that weren’t really his fault, turns angst into snark, is a tad bit self-destructive, and Kate comes along like STOP THIS. And eventually saves his life by saying, “YOU LOOK LIKE A GINGERBREAD MAN.”


“You don’t want to marry me. If you’d wanted to marry me, you’d have said so, long before this.”

“It’s hard for a man to ask a woman to marry him with an eight-foot wall of stakes and withy between them, especially if he happens to be dead at the time.”

I’m telling you, Elizabeth Marie Pope is a master of these proposal scenes.

8. Tonks and Lupin from Harry Potter

TONKS and LUPIN. Need I say more?? They’re two of the best characters in the whole series, in my humble opinion. I love them dearly–as individuals, and as a couple.

“And I’ve told you a million times,” said Lupin, refusing to meet her eyes, staring at the floor, “that I am too old for you, too poor…too dangerous…”

“I’ve said all along you’re taking a ridiculous line on this, Remus,” said Mrs. Weasley over Fleur’s shoulder as she patted her on the back.

“I am not being ridiculous,” said Lupid steadily. “Tonks deserves somebody young and whole.”

“But she wants you,” said Mr. Weasley, with a small smile.


*crying intensifies*


There you have it! Proof that I actually can appreciate a good romantic relationship.

As I was making this list, I realized the vast majority of these people are adults. I told you I wasn’t a fan of teen romance.

Also, I seem to like the ones that are at least 50% arguing/insults/banter/screaming??

Anyhoo! Happy Valentine’s Day, folks!

What are some of your favorite bookish romances? Teen romance: yea or nay? Do you support any of these couples? Are there any romances other people love that you hate? Do you consider yourself to be picky about romance in books? Do tell!

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25 responses to “8 Bookish romances I actually support–so much arguing”

  1. Okay, I’m in the same boat with you about book romances. Like, how is this realistic? These super cute teens are probably going to break about, like, right after their happy ending? Because, teens?Also, people, dating is for finding a spouse? But, like you, when I find a romance I truly enjoy, I truly enjoy it! (And yeah, the ones I enjoy are…pretty much all adult romances. I can’t think of more than…maybe one or two? teen romances that I actually…support.) So many of the ones you mention are ones I love, too!

    Howl and Sophie. That fantastic chaotic duo. THE GREEN SLIME. AND THE WEED KILLER. I just. Wow. (And yes, I love how Sophie embraces her old woman identity! Like, might as well make the most of it and be as crotchety as all get-out. XD)

    Maddie and Jamie! ❤ ❤ ❤ I love them. So much. And GOSH you hit all the high points! Those two moments! That quote! Jamie threatening to punch the dude who was being a jerk to Maddie is just the absolute best.

    I've never heard of The Sherwood Ring, but you've piqued my interest! Off to look it up.

    Well. In a minute. As soon as I FANGIRL OVER TONKS AND LUPIN because GAH they are the BEST. That quote! *cries with you* (My…maybe fourth time reading that? was possibly the closest I've ever come to crying over a romantic scene. Which has only ever otherwise happened for Tolkien characters. Saying something, I tell ya.)

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    • All the teen romances where they don’t have any plans for the future, they’re not even remotely considering an eventual goal of marriage, but they’re just like, “This MOMENT will last FOREVER, and that’s all that matters.” That’s…not how life works??
      Sophie Howl chaos is so fun to read about XD
      Yesss, I love that Jamie moment so much–especially since he’s missing a bunch of fingers and is way smaller than the guy he’s threatening, but he’s like, “YOU BETTER RESPECT THIS WOMAN.”
      Ahhh, you must read the Sherwood Ring. It’s truly excellent ❤
      I KNOW AREN'T THEY THE BEST??? I love them SO MUCH.


  2. Sophie and Howl an AWESOME couple. (Also the fanart of them came up with your post in my blogger reading list, and I knew it was of them before I even opened your post. What other couple could it be, honestly.)

    “I’ve been given orders not to die” << that line sounds so dramatic and potentially angsty?? I like. Haven't read many manga, but do you recommend Fullmetal Alchemist?

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    • Woah, for some reason the end of this comment was cut off when I looked at it earlier, so I didn’t see your question! I’m very new to this whole manga business (so I can’t say how it compares to other manga or anything)…but I quite like Fullmetal Alchemist myself. If you’re not opposed to reading manga, aren’t scared off by the fact that one of the characters is a walking talking suit of armor, and ARE a fan of stories about brothers, I would recommend it. 🙂


  3. Oh, so now I’m crying. BECAUSE I HAD FORGOTTEN KIT AND DEWEY EXISTED- and now that I have remembered, it is all I can remember. I’m only slightly being dramatic- the quote that you included just broke my heart into a million little pieces. But at the same time, I’m glad I now remember how much I loved their subtle, barely-talked-about romance, so thank you.

    Ahh, I love Lupin and Tonks as well! (Apparently we’re both fans of the tragic romances.) Honestly, so many of the romances, especially the adult ones, in Harry Potter are some of my favorites I’ve ever read. Maybe it’s because it was one of the first series I got into as a reader, but I’ll stand by some of my ships from Harry Potter forever.

    This was such a good post to read! I loved it.

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    • KIT AND DEWEY!! It’s amazing how much I care about them considering how little their relationship is talked about/shown in the books. But…that moment in the quote… *cries*
      Harry Potter does have some really good ones–Tonks and Lupin being my favorite obviously ❤
      Thank you!!

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  4. If I was a blog post myself, I would give this blog post roses to show my appreciation and we would have the most beautiful of romances and… gosh this is a weird sentence.
    What I mean is, I love this idea, I too tend to despise bookish romance (and even sometimes…real-life romance, because look, if they make you a worse/more boring person, they’re NOT RIGHT FOR YOU I DON’T CARE HOW BEAUTIFUL THEY ARE) but there are a few I deeply love, and HEY. It’s always good to remind the world that you’re not a love-hating heart-crushing goblin arsonist!

    Howl and Sophie are hilarious. I believe I wrote a post a long time ago about couples I actually support, and they were on there, and…it’s not that I really care about their romance?? But I don’t hate it and they are truly hilarious and I love them. So.

    Elizabeth Marie Pope – TRULY A MASTER OF PROPOSAL SCENES. (I’m laughing so much). I adore the one in The Perilous Gard…and I really do need to read The Sherwood Ring. They sound much more…um, sweet and tactful and not self-destructive, which would be nice, although I DEARLY love Christopher and Kate and do not expect anyone ever to top them.

    And Maddie and Jamie!!! Oh my GRACIOUS ME!!!! Everything about that relationship (including how the author never once spends too much time on it or devolves into even a moment of mush) makes me feel ACTUAL FEELINGS INSIDE OF ME. It’s terrible. I adore Jamie. And Maddie is fabulous. And the way he LOOKS OUT FOR HER….you hit the high points, I’m just nattering on because I LOVE THEM SO MUCH. I LOVE THEM SO MUCH IT HURTS.

    (I definitely agree about teenagers. It’s just not…convincing? Or mature? Except for Johnny and Cilla because I will always love those two. Oh and also Davie and Catriona I guess. They’re like 17 or something crazy. But they’re eighteenth-century Scottish teenagers caught up in Jacobite messiness who don’t [or effectively don’t] have parents and have grown up a bit faster than most. Maybe that’s what it is. I don’t know.)

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    • *cackling at the opening*
      Hehe, I’ve done my share of disapproving of real life romances as well…
      Yeah, some of the romances I like (including Sophie and Howl) are like, “Well, I love both these characters, their interactions are hilarious, and I don’t hate the idea of them being in love, so…I’ll support them”. I guess some people are actually swooning over how ROMANTIC things are, but….??? What are these unrealistic expectations you people have of me?? I’m not burning down flowershops–isn’t that enough for you???
      You DO need to read the Sherwood Ring. Everyone needs to read the Sherwood Ring. A pot of baked beans is featured. Do you need any more reason to read it?
      “including how the author never once spends too much time on it or devolves into even a moment of mush” Hehe, this is how I feel about several of the couples on this list honestly. The very fact that it’s subtle and not elaborated on into mushiness is KEY.
      Sometimes teen romances do work a little better when the story is set a long time ago when kids maybe had to grow up faster and people in general go married younger… And sometimes it still doesn’t work XD

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      • Right?! Not burning down flowershops is a big step; people need to not go overboard with their demands here.
        A featured pot of baked beans? SAY NO MORE. I will storm libraries all over the world in pursuit of this book, if must be.

        “And sometimes it still doesn’t work” <so true. I like what you said in response to Sam's comment – it really has more to do with, are we thinking about the future here?? Cuz hey, my grandma got married when she was eighteen (and had the happiest marriage I've ever seen, I might add), so it's not like you can't fall in love at a young age, but…don't be Romeo and Juliet, basically. In any way, shape, or form. PLEASE. XD

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      • When will these people learn? *sigh*
        Yes, storm the libraries! Be courageous in the face of the cover! (One of the covers I’ve seen is okay, but the others are so baaaaaad.)
        Exactly. Are we thinking about the future? Is there a future?? Are we thinking any of this through, hmm??? PLEASE no one model your life after Romeo and Juliet. I’m begging you.

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  5. Howl and Sophie will forever be my favorite. Kit and Dewy are adorable. I also low key ship her and Olaf but before he became a villain. Barbara and Peacable are hilarious and I love Kate and Christopher!

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